Today I finally get myself to attend the World Cafe event hosted by the Dashew center, ie. the international student center of UCLA. Even before I got myself a first cup of coffee, I met someone that clicked! Though arriving late, we chatted even after the event ended and promise we'll definitely hangout sometime.
---photo from Dashew website---
After coming here for ten month now, most of the people I know are of my husband's friend, who are mainly engineers. With no negative feeling or prejudice about engineers, as my husband is one of them, I feel they see me as "the wife of xx", instead of an individual person. This is a new feeling to me. Although me and my husband dated for almost 10 years, we were in a long distance relationship and did not have much common friends.
Over the years, we tried to visit each other and get to know each others' friends. However, it's difficult to become friends with them as we'll have very weak link to stay connected. Still, it is an interesting experience when I finally meet his friends after hearing stories about the parties and outings they have been out together. Though the stories he told me, I often try to imagine how they look like based on the personality, the then my boyfriend, had described. After finally being able to meet them, I often said to my husband, "oh, he looks nothing like what I have imagined". My husband would laughed and teased me thinking, so how "
should" he/she look like. Ha, yes, how
should he look like what I had imagined him to be?